::Angsty Baby! Angsty!
3:03 a.m. - 2007-04-22
No darling, you don't need him
Its tough being a girl. That too in a world as skewed as this where boys can dump girls and yet blame them for everything that happened. A world where girls get labeled as skanky because they like to dance at clubs.
So how do you know what to do? How do you know whether or not he should be dumped? How do you know when to throw in the towel before he calls the bluff and makes you the fool?
Take it from me. Been there, done that. Got the T-shirt.
My Top 5 Reasons for Why You Don't Need Him. If anyone has realised, the last time i had a messy breakup, i also wrote a list of the Men you should not end up with. Heh. Are we seeing a pattern here?
Before i regale you with my 5 reasons, i should go out to say that these may not always be the Top 5 reasons and of course, as is with any other list, it is subjective. Oh and please do take note, this entry is very very biased. Yes you heard me. It's biased.
I'm tired of mincing my words and sounding all sweet and saccharine. I've figured i owe it to no-effing-body to sugarcoat my words and that i am entitled to my opinions. So yes, here's a little revival to show that the Old Me isn't completely dead(or rather, HE didn't do as good a job in killing the old me as we all thought he had)
#5: He lies just to make you feel jealous/inferior/unhappy/ugly
I believe I have mentioned this on one of my previous lists but wonders of wonders, this is still happening! I mean, are you guys reading your FHM right? Don't they teach you guys to lie for POSITIVE reasons.
See, correct thing to say:
Fat Me: Am i fat?
You: Of course not baby.
Slim Me: Am i fat?
You: Er well baby. It doesn't matter that you're fat cos i love you and i'm the only one who ever will!
See, i thought that all men know that beating our egos down to make YOURSELVES feel better isn't the ideal way to go about things. I mean pick on someone your own size would you!
I've had it with boyfriends who lie to me that their mums hate me so that I will work harder to fix things and impress. Who lie about beautiful ex girlfriends just so that i think i'm dating THE BOMB(pfft!). Who lie that all their friends want him to leave me when in reality no one even cares(all just so that I would realise what a precious gem i have and so that I would never ever even consider leaving him).
I mean seriously, if you need your ego to be boosted go seek a therapist. Don't find a girlfriend and beat her ego down just so that you can feel better about yourself. Better yet, go spend a day in Paramount cos I'm sure with all the call girls at your beck and call, you're bound to feel more of a man, than you actually are(which shouldn't be too difficult).
#4:He constantly stakes you out, tries to find out where you are and what you are doing, which guy is messaging you and with what balls he dare message you. Then two hours later, he completely disappears on you and you know he is up to something. DODGY!
Its one thing to be a creep. Its one thing to be a jerk. Its one thing to be overprotective. Its one thing to be overly suspicious. But its A COMPLETELY INTOLERABLE thing to be a holier than thou moron.
If you want to be highly protective over your girlfriend, please at least make sure you can do the bare minimum of being faithful. If not, you have just proven yourself to be an A grade moron who should just go grate his head in the cheese-grater.
If you can break all the rules of dating but you expect your girlfriend to sit at home by a lamp awaiting your arrival, you probably belong in a Tamil movie, cos that's the only place these things are likely to happen.
I mean what do you take us for? Idiots.
*Note to you: I have evidently been enlightened as to your doings and I now know what a jerk you were as well as how bloody two faced you were. Tsk!
#3:He hates your girl friends and constantly berates you for spending more time with those "whores" than with him
If a guy doesn't like your girl friends or vice versa, DUMP HIM. I've learnt the hard way that friendship is way more important than any man and I'm guilty of having lost many precious people this way.
You are defined by the people you mix with and if he thinks your best girls are skanky hoes, he'd probably think you are one too. Furthermore, when he did start dating you, you were the exact same person and your girlfriends were too. So why decide suddenly that these girls were the devil-sends?
And you know what's the worst part? That he's likely to be highly protective of his own friends and defend half the cheating scumbags of friends he has but your friends, THEY ARE BAD!
Trust me, when he breaks your heart or does something really stupid like threaten to break your face if he comes there(hmm..sounds familiar?), it would be your girlfriends who'd have your back. If the situation was turned around and one of your girlfriends and you had a fight and you're all sad, what do you think he would say? 9 out of 10 times, it's likely to be "I TOLD YOU SO!"
Note to you: For the number of times you told me my best friends were cheap, not worth it, irritating, annoying, bitchy, stupid, not worthy of your respect, i should have left you there and then. Because my best friends have principles, morals and regard for people. You? You're just a loser. Oh but then again, so are all your friends. No wonder you call my friends the horrible ones, that's probably because your idea of perfect friends are the ones you have! CHE! Like that we rather be horrible!
Is this entry getting angsty enough? ;)
#2: He constantly hassles you for not spending enough time with you, even when whatever free time you do have, is spent with him
It doesn't matter that you have to go to school(and that too battling the competitive life of being an Undergrad). It doesn't matter that you're involved in competitions and events of sorts(that require commitment). It doesn't matter that you have tuitions to teach or a family to go back home to. It doesn't matter that apart from that your only other commitment is him and you spend every other free moment with him. No sir'ee it really doesn't matter! IT'S STILL NOT ENOUGH!
See i've heard of men who don't spend enough time with their ladies. But men who hassle women about not spending enough time? That's disturbing! I would love to say that it's because these men highly adore their girlfriends or simply love being around them. But i've come to realise it's just because they love having someone to shower them with attention and they love seeing people make THEM the centre of their busy, heavily scheduled lives.
A relationship was never meant to be a burden. Its supposed to be something that enhances and sweetens your life, not make it a timebomb waiting to explode. If he's started to sulk and pout that "you just don't have enough time for me" and "you're always in a rush" or that "things are different now because you're so busy", take it as a cue and RUN! NOW!
And really, if he reaaaaaalllyyy wants to see you so badly, why can't he make the effort to come see you or keep you company on the train while you're zapping between schedules? Hmmm.. A thought to ponder eh?
Note to you: I think back of all the times you've made me feel guilty amidst my heavy dance trainings and schoolwork and tuitions and i feel sorry for myself. No actually, i feel sorry for you. You made me give up so much just to be with you and even then, that wasn't enough for you. I still remember the time you watched me completely break down and almost have a panic attack in the middle of a train station. You sat there and watched and even then you didn't make me feel any better. All you did was sit there and remind me of what an incompetent girlfriend i was and how i didn't know how to prioritise. I remember the numerous times you made me feel bad that i decided to partake in competitions or do things that were important to me, just because it would snatch away "precious" time for US. More like precious time for me to sit down and coochie coo your ego.
You know what? If it was really that important that i spend time with you, you would have been there. Hmmm..
#1: He belittles your dress sense/makeup/character/dancing/whatever he can possibly belittle
See,if you choose to be with a girl, the least you can do is accept her flaws as they are. Her flaws were probably there the first time you met her so why do they suddenly pop out and scream right at you?
It really doesn't matter if your makeup is too thick or your nails are too short or that you like to wear your old,faded jeans. He shouldn't be complaining. Yes, you might look odd, but he technically shouldn't be complaining.
If all he does, is nitpick on how you need to go for a manicure or you need to get a new pair of jeans, kick him in the nuts and scoot.
Cos a real man would know how to deal with the situation and a real man would be able to give you a subtle hint without you even realising it. A man who makes you feel incompetent, unworthy and ugly doesn't deserve you. You are beautiful the way you are and if he doesn't like it, he shouldn't have chosen you in the first place. What was he trying to do? Mould you into his idea of a perfect girl?. Walk baby, walk. And don't turn back.
There! I'm done ranting. I realised I haven't ranted like this in a really long time and it brings back some great moments of heaving huge sighs of relief in front of my computer.
Note to You: Thank you for leaving. Made it easier than for me to show you the door. Cos then, i'd have been the nasty bitch who broke your little heart. Now that everyone knows what an arse you are, you've spared me the extra effort
Oh ya! I was looking through my handphone messages and i found a really funny joke i wanted to share with everyone!
You know i love you. I know you do too. But i feel that you need to go clear your mind and i think you're not ready for a relationship. at least not with one like me. its no use tryin so hard for no avail.so honey i'll wait..till ya ready and wanna come back without thinking so mch and trusting me and love. i'll be here with arms wide open till then, the relationship's over!! as of now. Love ya loads Aarthi
Don't see the humour in it? 1 week later he was seen cuddling with some chic in Tekka Mall.
Funny now right? ;)
