::Love will keep us together
12:16 a.m. - 2006-12-29
Love will keep us together
Disclaimer: This entry in its entirety was written on the long bus journey back from NUS after a very tiring day of dancing, spray painting and blotching. So do pardon me if I lose you midway of my plot. Anyhow..
The title of this post kind of reminds me of that song by Captain & Tenille. I’m a little blur about the lyrics so pardon me if I get it wrong alright?
Love.. Love will keep us together.. Think about me whenever..Some sweet talkin’ girl comes around, singin a song, you just gotta be strong!
Okay, it was a very bad attempt but I will edit that bit once I get the right lyrics. Anyhow, a lot of incidents of late have got me thinking about what it is that makes us stick. Why are we, impatient as we may be, so willing to stick out the tough times or endure the character flaws(or natural defects :P) that come tagged with the price of a relationship? What is it that keeps telling us to forge on? Is it the hope that things will get better and the hardship is worth the end result? Or is it simply this resignation to the thought that we could probably not do any better?
One might wonder what went wrong in my love life for me to be writing this. Unfortunately or fortunately, this has nothing to do with my love life. Nothing much at least.
My attempt at taking a photo of them. I am no voyeur, just trying to make my story seem more credible!
While taking my lonely journey back home from Clementi last night I was seated across a young couple(late 20s) who weren’t exactly speaking very softly. I don’t know if I’m just kaypoh number 1 or whether this particular conversation was too interesting for me to actually pass up on. Anyhow, I’m guessing that the guy’s parents had met the girl and had not actually shown much approval. Likewise, the girl was not very confident that her parents would approve of him either. It was quite hilarious because they kept asking each other “quiz-like” questions such as, “What kind of a person do you think your parents would want for you.” The lady replied very calmly,”Someone much older than me(I’m guessing he’s younger), someone who is financially stable an basically someone who can take care of me.” It was funny because the guy started making a checklist for himself, I didn’t quite hear what he said for the first two, but his answer for the last was pretty hilarious. It went something like, “For the taking care of you part, I guess it depends(raise eyebrows here) on how much the person loves you la. I guess it also depends on how much I can do for you and what exactly I have to sacrifice to take care of you(raise eyebrows again)”
Fair enough. He was just being an honest man, but I’m sure most of us women would have preferred the whole, OF COURSE I WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU, MY PRINCESS dialogue. It was interesting though that at no point in time did either of them talking about walking out or leaving the relationship since the external pressures were quite daunting.
Another interesting and fairly controversial incident would be one where someone I know got hit by her boyfriend recently. I am pretty unclear as to how the situation arose but anyone who knows me well enough would know that I would be fuming mad to have found out. I gave her my 2 cents worth and at the end of it all, she still forgave him and is working on her relationship. That would have definitely not have been my ideal solution for that situation but whatever rocks their cradle man!
Simply put, I don’t know if previously I have been too rash to leave relationships that I knew wouldn’t work out or were unhealthy for me. The moment I hear that I have been cheated on, I don’t even give the (in)significant other a chance to explain. What is the point right? Once trust becomes a question mark, there really is no need to keep at it. But as I think more of the situations that have cropped up before, it becomes evident to me that I probably didn’t give much thought to staying because I didn’t see any point in it. The relationship didn’t seem worth the wait or the hardship. I’m guessing most people are willing to tackle the tough times in a relationship only because the know it will bear fruit in the end or would work out perfectly once that little hurdle has been crossed.
So what is is that makes us stick? Is it love that keeps us together? Is it the hope that things will go smoother? Or are we sure that we cannot do any better?
I wonder too. While pondering, please also remember to support NUS VIDIYAL in Dhool 2006. Recording is on 1st January.
Toodles!
