::A lesson in self-worth.
8:20 p.m. - 2006-11-16
I'm still feeling the vibes i have been feeling for the last few days. I don't know if its the events that around me or whether its just my self-reflections(i tend to have a fair amount).
I've never understood why a woman would stick around a man who would cheat on her or worst betray her trust in some way or another. To all of you i ask, do you really not mind being second best? Doesn't it affect you that you are not the only person your other half desires?
Do you blame yourself? Do you think its because you cannot provide your other half with something and thus he searches for it elsewhere? Because if you do, then NEWSFLASH most men don't need a reason to cheat.
Why do we allow ourselves to settle for something that is no longer perfection? How can you forgive a matter of this sort? If he makes you angry and you forgive i understand. If he runs off his mouth and you say its alright, i understand. But if he could have enough neurons running through his head to allow him to uptake the act of cheating on you, i think you should cut his dick into a million pieces and line his corridor with it.
Am i wrong in not believing in the beneift of doubt in such cases? Yes, you gotta hear it from the horse's mouth itself,but when so much incriminating evidence stands before you, are you sure you cannot make an informed decision for yourself?
Do women of this day have such little self respect that we could allow ourselves to be stepped upon and walked all over like this?
Would you be okay if i gave you someone's leftover food and told you to eat? I'm sure any woman out there would bitchslap me if that were to happen. But if not,then how can you take it lying down that someone has played you out to such an extent?
Can you bring yourself to trust and love this person unconditionally thereafter? Would you still feel beautiful in their eyes? Would you be able to look any girl straight in her eye and know that your man has never thought about her?
There's a popular saying in Tamil that goes "kalanaalum kanavan(even if he's stone,he's your husband) pullanaalum purushan(even if he's nothing but weeds,he still your husband).
I'm sorry darlings, but we no longer live in that era and if he's stone or grass, he belongs in only one place.
Out the door.
If you love yourself enough and if you know that you do not ever need to settle for second best, you would never ever allow yourself to live with someone who has cheated on you.
I've walked out on someone who meant the world to me at a point in time because of the lies and deceit that came tagged along with it. Yes, i was so worried that i was being harsh, that i had made a wrong decision, that i should give him one more chance. But as painful as it was, it was a mind over matter thing and i know at the end of the day i'm worth so much more than that.
Whoever you are,wherever you are from,however you look,whatever you do, you ARE worth someone's single and undivided attention and love.
Think about it folks.
